Just say "No! No! No!"
This week I am going to say “no” to someone about something and they are not going to like it.
I have been worrying over this for days if not weeks, but it has to be done.
Meeester said to me today, “It’s OK to not want to upset people but there comes a point where you’ll be the one with no cinema arm-rest.”
A good cinema analogy- God that bloke knows how my mind works. Tomorrow I say “no” and deal with the fall out. You don’t need to know the details…yet.
It takes more guts to say “no” than it does “yes”. Indeed, my last post was about a few people standing up to a man who is only used to hearing “yes”; Mr Donald Trump. I feel proud that it was my little community that did it. The last time anyone said no to him must have been the night Ivana walked out. That and the time he asked his aides, “Tell me honestly, do you think the new hair looks fake?”
“I am the girl who can’t say no” doesn’t mean you’re a big ole slut as the song suggests, just that you like an easy life. It might as well be called, “Ohhh…go on then”
History gives the nay sayers a hard time.
Here’s a few folk that weren’t agreeing to NOTHIN’ no-way, no-how.
“The lady’s not for turning”: And true to her word, she didn’t. Turn that is. We had to have the whole of Europe hate us for raining on their parade for a good few years as a result, but during that time we did win the Eurovision Song Contest a couple of times, so she must have been doing something right.
“Non” the collective cry of France on just about anything. “Non” to Nato, “Non” to Iraq, “Non” to British beef, and “Non” to speaking English to English people even if they can manage it perfectly well, just to piss them off. Folk can’t bear the French, but personally I like the cut of their jib. I need to be more French. I will start by drinking something French this very minute. Salut!
They tried to make her go to rehab but she said “No, no, no”. So sings the current UK bete noir, Ms Winehouse. The drug addiction aside, I wish at 23 I’d been a feisty as that chick. I bet nobody messes with her in a kebab shop at 3 in the morning. (But let’s be honest , I’m just making a see-through attempt at tying the title in here. In real life Amy needs to say “no” a little more often…then maybe she would look less like Amy Shithouse).
Kate Bush was so much more interesting when she said no to performing and touring. She used to be reclusive, enigmatic Kate Bush. Then she said “yes” and brought out some choons that would have previously only made it on a B-Side. And now she’s just the singer whose comeback wasn’t as good as her old stuff. I still reckon the Beatles wouldn’t be as feted as they are now if they has done that one last reunion gig. But they said no over and over again, and now two of them are dead and it can’t happen anyway. They never became dull and tiresome like the Stones are now. They were right to desist.
Think of me tomorrow as I build up my courage to say “No” to someone who ain’t used to hearing it. For those of you who like a mental image this will involve me practising in the mirror before the deed itself. And then running away quickly afterwards.
God, I’m pathetic….
